so these are the most common questions i’ve been getting so far, and my honest responses to them.

1. ARE YOU EXCITED?

can i say no, without people thinking i’m a tool?…

no, i’m not “excited”.

heather, my wife, is.

i’m not.

i’m super thrilled about it, and given the opportunity to be or not to be expecting, i’d definitely choose to be… but “excited” is the wrong word.  i’m fairly confident that’ll change once we get deeper in to the pregnancy and see the baby on ultrasound and hear the heartbeat, but for the moment i’m just really happy.

and that is a very unusual question to me…

i mean, i would compare it to you asking me now, in june, if i’m excited about christmas.  i mean, yeah i like christmas… but so far in the year i haven’t lost any sleep from being too excited about it…

no i’m not excited. i’m delighted.

2. WAS IT EXPECTED?

do you know that couples try for months and sometimes years to get pregnant?

it is a process.

and we weren’t even really “trying”

granted, we weren’t doing everything to stop it from happening…

but i never thought to mark it down on the calender, because “this was the time”…

it just happened.

3. DO YOU WANT A BOY? OR GIRL?

if you ask a girl this question, you’re going to get an answer every time… guys… who knows?

i want one of each… eventually.  so it makes no difference, to me, which one we check off our list first.

with a boy… i mean, i don’t even have to come up with full sentences to tell you what’s cool about having a boy…

cowboys. cops and robbers. leggos. t-ball. dinosaurs. robots. power rangers. ect… and i do have to mention, that their pajamas are infinitely cooler than girl pajamas.  i mean, capes and everything. so cool!

on the other hand, with a girl… there’s the whole cute and cuddly factor.

a friend of mine told me that a daughter will “steal your soul”… which i don’t think he meant to be as scary as it sounds…

i think what he meant, was that a daughter get’s you “wrapped around her finger”, she’s someone for you to protect, she’s your princess.

i get it.

i feel that way about my niece, for sure.  she’s one year old, and already a heart breaker.

there are definitely pros for each gender…

honestly though, i just want a healthy baby.  i don’t really care what it is.

4. WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO NAME IT?

true story… my name was supposed to be “ryan patrick jones”… heavy on the irish catholic, i know.

my parents were trusting, and i guess a little naive, and they shared that name with another pregnant couple they knew.  and a few months before i was born, “ryan patrick”… some other kid was born, “ryan patrick”…

a fake!

a phony!

that kids parents stole my name!

i know, right?

so anyways, that story has kind of made me a little cautious of “name sharing” before i actually have all the forms filled… paranoid? maybe.  just blame ryan patrick.

for the time being, heather and i have been calling it “lightning jermaine jones”… guaranteeing it to be the fastest baby that ever lived!

5. ARE YOU READY TO BE A DAD?

well, of all the scary, lousy, thought provoking, keep you up at night questions to ask… NO!

of course not!

and they always put the emphases on “you”…

are YOU ready to be a dad?

c’mon, i can train to be an astronaut my whole life, but the second that rocket kicks on and we start lifting, the only thing going through my head will be “what the heck was i thinking? i’m going into space?”

… and that example’s a little more negative than having a baby, but my point is this; i can prepare as much as i want to be a dad… but i’m never going to be ready.

i’m thinking it’s going to be one of those “learn as you go” kind of things.

encouraging, i know.

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